The fear of change causes people to avoid changing their circumstances due to being extremely afraid of the unknown.
My son who is diagnosed with autism, had so many episodes of moving forward. They have diminished now because I literally took on his emotions! I had to envision what he was feeling, then immediately get rid of his fear as well as my own. My fear was the unknown of how I would help him walk through, from fear to growth. He wanted to be Peter Pan, I wanted him to excel in life. Our experiences are penned in the newly released book, Navigating Thru Autism. It’s an adolescent time of my son, explaining how determined I was that he’d develop into a productive young man. It’s full of concepts and stageties our family and community utilized to pull him out of his common place. If I didn’t introduce new concepts to him, he would have remained afraid to move from fear to flight.
Just like you have faith that your car will start when you put the key in the ignition, or believe that the seat will hold you when you sit down – that’s the confidence you need to have when standing in the gap for others, to help pull them through the fear of moving forward!
After feeling his emotion of fear, I would meditate on how and when to approach him, knowing that my resilience would meet his resistance, and there would be a war. I know the Lord guided me through these times – to get him through! Each road block seemed easier to handle, because of the knowledge and faith I gained. I’m so thankful that God showed me how to; take on his fear, get rid of it, then guide him through to the other side of fear- embarking accomplishment!
You don’t want to hear someone telling you about how to navigate marriage, divorce, disappointment, loss – if they haven’t experience it themselves. So we MUST take on the emotions of those we are helping across each finish line of fear, that held them stagnant and complacent.
These concepts help us all in life. I’ve seldom stated that those diagnosed with autism are showing us how to adjust ourselves in many areas in life. These Navigating Thru blogs are designed to reach everyone! We have a community who have a heart for people and want the best for you. Set sail as they provide you with nuggets every month – to help you glide through life’s challenges!
Pat Swain
